Dreaded Deception

Dreaded Deception

It has been brought to my attention that men and women are not only into playing games with each other nowadays, but the games are never ending. If he plays one she has to play two. This has got to stop! I mean honestly just say what’s on your mind rather then string someone along at your convenience. That’s not the issue that I want to press however it is a growing pain.

So today’s topic, “DREADED Deception”, what does this mean you may ask? It’s simple… there is always a fear that lies deep within the hearts and minds of anyone who has been or is in love and that is deceit. I don’t know about you but I dread being deceived. After you have put so much work and emotions into the relationship, BAM, you find out the he/she has deceived you. What do you do? What can you do? Cry? No, you shouldn’t cry, you should get EVEN! I’m just kidding about the getting even part but you should feel free to express yourself. Never keep feelings bottled up inside because when held in they intensify and you end up releasing them at the wrong time. Well, Extra, how can I keep myself from the “Dreaded Deception?” I’m glad you asked. Here are a few tips that should come in handy…

1. First of all, know what you’re getting yourself into before you even allow yourself to become intimate with someone. Too much intimacy too soon can cause you to feel too many emotions that may not even be honest or pure… you could suffer from lust/infatuation and this is a huge mistake. More people get hurt behind being in lust than being in love. Love doesn’t hurt you but lust with kill you and drive you crazy.
2. Be clear of your intentions whether you are looking for a relationship, friendship, physical relationship or a lack there of. You never know, your companion may be looking for the same thing or similar but never trick them into thinking that you want something more than what you actually intend. This is how many people, females mainly get hurt. Men, can’t you see that if you want something all you have to do is ask, Of course women play hard to get but times are changing… we are trying to get it just like you. All you have to do is find a WOMAN who is not into playing games and gets straight to business. We love to talk and get to know you but honestly, talking can come later. SOMETIMES
3. Share your feelings. If you aren’t feeling the situation anymore be honest about it. Don’t just ignore calls and texts thinking “He/she will get the message”. NEWS FLASH! They will not get the message. They will spend hours if not days wondering what mistake they made when they didn’t do anything wrong. You were just too selfish to admit that you only wanted what they did to you and for you for a short period of time, if at all. Tell them the truth. A simple conversation will clear up the air and save your name from being tainted. Trust me ladies, men have to power to ruin you faster than you have to power to ruin them. Men talk just as much or more than women and this is BAD! Oh and ladies, a word of advice, if you’re going to sleep with a guy on the first date or meeting, be good, be very good that way he’ll at least be interested in you for a short time.
4. Be sure to return calls and texts if you are interested in someone because after a while, they may begin to think that you are uninterested and lose interest in you all together. In order to salvage whatever you have, just communicate! Communication is the key and if you like someone, you should let them know just how much. Just as quick as they come, they leave quicker.
5. Introduce them to your friends with a title. Whether it’s “my friend” “my girl or my man” any title is better than just a name. When you introduce them with a title at least they know where they stand with you. “This is David” could mean I picked him up off the side of the street and now I’m treating him to dinner before I return him to the shelter. Anyway, you get the picture.
6. If you don’t want people in your business then don’t tell anybody your business. People have the power to ruin whatever you have going on. Jealousy does exist and ladies, please believe that men get jealous of you when they want you but you don’t want them. They will attempt to put “salt” in your game and sometimes it does work because “boys” trust their friends more than they trust you. Notice I said boys, not men. Please refer to my book “The Lust for Love” for my definition on men and boys. Men, there are girls out here who have the mindset that if they can’t have you, no one will. Trust me, there are entire sites dedicated to professional athletes dating lives and ruining them. Google an NFL or NBA player and type girlfriend at the end… watch the site pop up. It’s hilarious actually.
7. I say this over and over again, if you’re going to talk to someone, talk to them and no one else. It’s very difficult to be honest with more than one person when you have five or six other people hounding you all of the time. It’s ok to have friends but don’t put someone you care about on the back burner just to have a fling! It’s not worth it. If it’s just about sex, I’m pretty sure he or she will give it to you but you have to be willing to show them that they can trust you with their feelings and their body. I don’t want anything from you that I didn’t already have, and babies are included. If you feel the need to sleep with multiple people, something is wrong with you. YES! I said something is wrong with you. You have some sort of disorder. One person can’t satisfy you? Come one with the B.S!

Ok, so I let it out today, big deal! It was on my heart and you asked so I delivered. I give the truth to you and if you don’t like, you just don’t know. Please take heed to my advice. There are so many men and women who question their worth and their confidence behind men ad women who have no intentions of taking it to the next level. Just be careful of what you get yourself into and who you draw into you. There are some people who aren’t able to handle rejection and you may have been their last hope at finding love. Just be honest, clear and upfront with people therefore avoiding the “Dreaded Deception”.