Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Number Exchange...

So, what do you do when you are attracted to someone and you aren't really sure of what to say? Do you ask for their number or offer yours? Of course you don't! You have to sit back and examine the situation. Spark casual conversation and get to know the other person. If nervousness kicks in just smile and say something! The worst thing you could do in a situation like this is remain silent. Be witty, tell a joke, offer a compliment, just do something! Nine times out of ten the other person is probably experiencing the same nervousness so someone has to break the ice.
You may ask how do I approach someone who is out of my league? What’s out of your league? The only person that determines who you can and can't have is YOU! Don't try to be too direct too soon. Become friends with the other person and get to know their likes and dislikes and what they do and don't do and just a little bit about them. Make sure that you have something in common with them so that you'll always have something to talk about. If you can't hold a conversation in person or via the internet for that matter, what makes you think that you'll be able to keep their attention in a relationship?
Ladies, sometimes men just want to get to know a little about you before they ask for your number. They want to make sure that you're interesting enough to keep their attention mentally, not just physically. Therefore ladies do not direct the conversation towards sex. If you do this the only thing that the man will come to you for is sex and he will continue to pursue someone who is not as easy as you are. Remember, men love to chase you. Don't make it too easy for them but don't play games either. If you want sex then go for it but prepared to be labeled.
Guys, women can not read your mind so say what you mean and don't talk in circles. Don't offer up hints because we won't read into them. If you are interested then give her your number, and then if she shares interest she will call. If you are serious then show her how serious you are by giving her an open line of communication. A real woman will give her honest opinion up front... if she is interested you will know it. Also, don't try to spit game at us... we HATE IT! But, don't lead us on either. If you have no intention of getting to know who we are and what we are about then don't entertain our conversation and ask open ended questions.
Playing games gets us nowhere so why not just come out and say what's on your mind? If you are interested in someone whether you are male or female let them know, otherwise you will walk around questioning yourself and their motives which is added stress that you don't need. Also, don't read too much into the situation. Sometimes people just want someone to talk to and have no interest in a romantic or intimate relationship. Sometimes men generally just want a friendship, but I can't really say the same for ladies.
It's really all about confidence. If you are that anxious to get to know EVERYTHING about someone then go for it... ask for their number and get shot down. The best thing to do is to let whatever is going to happen... happen. If you force something on someone you may mess up whatever it is that could have taken place. If it doesn't fit, it doesn't fit. Ladies and gentlemen, all I’m saying is that before you exchange numbers... think about what you are really asking for.